Having friends is a precious gift to be cherished every day. I'm not just talking about the best friends you are, who you call when you're in trouble, or when you need to share your deepest thoughts and fears, I spoke also about friends, your colleagues, acquaintances, and all these people may You enjoy hanging out with once in a while.
How does this relate to dating?
Well, once you are outside the single market, these people become an important asset, you should begin to see them not only as your friends but also as your dating service. Not only that one of them may be single and just as you see fit, but also each and every one of them has a circle of friends where there are clearly other singles looking for someone like you to have a relationship with.
There are two ways to achieve this - the first way is a direct way, which literally means asking your friends to be a matchmaker and set you up to date with one of their friends.
The second option is to start hanging out with my friends and hopefully through their group hang (birthdays, parties, etc.) you will get familiar with the 'goods'.
The main disadvantage of the method of hanging the group is that it might look abit weird if you're going to start tagging along to all parties with one of your colleagues that you never say anything but 'hello'. Will also take longer for you to know all the new friends and find out who is single and works for you. These problems can be easily solved if you directly approach your friend and just ask him \ her if they can set you up to date with someone.
The main weakness of the direct way, of course, make your friend feel very uncomfortable, did not have anyone to set you up with, or may not want to ...
The second loss is that it will not work.
Instead you have to avoid friends for the rest of your life, make sure you do not say or do something inappropriate during a date that may insult your date or your friends, and remember that people do not you go with your friend and that it was not \ fault It did not work. On the contrary - to feel grateful that a friend thought enough to set you up with someone and look after your personal life and happiness.
The main advantage of dating a friend of a friend is a flow of information. You no longer need to torture yourself after that date, contemplating whether he \ she likes you, when to call and what to do next. One phone call and you will have a familiar voice answered all the questions you have. You must remember, of course, that it occurs in both directions, and that any impression you have immediately passed to the other side. Perhaps this comfort is very good at an early stage, when communication is destined to become less and problematic. But if the relationship work and you go out, you have to stop the task that tells your friends, and concentrate on your own and create a healthy communication tool.
Concluded - dating through friends is the most secure when it comes to the person you go out with, but it is the most risky when it comes to your personal losses. The idea is to understand that when you are dating someone, the dynamics are always different from what you have with your friends, and you can not blame your friends to try. On the other hand, if successful, not only you will have the joy of having a beautiful relationship, but I'm sure you'll make your friends very proud of \ her matchmaking skills!
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